Funeral Dress
Code
You are going to a funeral. You are not supposed to
be wearing flashy clothes. Surely, the world has changed from what
it once was, dark and colorless. Conservative approaches have gone
up in smoke. Still, there are some issues which are more than
tricky to deal with. Issues where a conservative approach might be
the only approach available.
Somebody is dead. Probably, someone you knew. If your clothes look
inappropriate, chances are that, you will make a very bad
impression with the assembled people. Of all the occasions that you
know of where formal dressing is important, none can be more
serious than a
funeral. Show your respect. Wear something subdued
in color, preferably black.
Fact is, with the change of time, the understanding of a community
changes too. Which color should it be that pronounces your sympathy
and respect? Why should it be essentially black? Questions like
these are asked. A lot of writers are now saying that there cannot
be a certain funeral dress code anymore. Grief is more important
than etiquette. What you wear is secondary, your feelings are more
important.
However, if you think you will avoid black, choose navy blue or
such. Etiquette is, whatever some people advise, a very important
part of a funeral and going against the grains of tradition might
not be the right thing to do. It might project the wrong signals.
Under your dark suit, do remember to wear a plain shirt and a sober
tie. A flashy tie and a colorful shirt won't do that well. Do not
wear bright patterns. Avoid all hints of fun in your clothing.
You must remember, to be subdued is not to be unfashionable. If you
are very conscious about the way you look, choose your funeral
garments from a good dealer. Black often pronounces high fashion.
You need not look bad just because you have chosen a color which
about everybody else in the congregation has also chosen. You can
wear the same, yet stand out from the crowd. Elegance is
independent of color.
If you are going to a funeral of somebody who belongs to a
different culture, be sure to ask somebody appropriate about the
dressing code for such an occasion. Ignorance can often land you in
an awkward situation. If you are in Japan, say, you would be
expected to take off your overcoat in reverence to the deceased.
Now, you are not supposed to know that before you are told or you
have done your own research. But to wear an overcoat during
mourning is considered extremely rude. You will not even know it
while you irk the sensibility of your Japanese friends. Even if you
are freezing, do not consider it to be okay to don your overcoat.
There are rules.
The bottom line is, if it suits you, and if the color is demure
enough and without patterns, you may wear your favorite suit.
Mourning fashion has changed throughout the ages. In the '80s black
was the dominant color, after 2000 color has become okay again. In
the '60s purple or gray were permissible. The choice is yours, but
do not go out of the way and choose a fashion that does not fit
your time. Specially since the occasion is a death.
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